Things I've learnt since becoming a mum

I think most people can agree that before becoming a parent they had a perfect ideal in their head of how things would be but in reality it never quite works out like that. When you think about it, how can it? You can never really fully anticipate or appreciate how life will be as a parent because it's simply something you've never experienced so you don't know for sure how you'll react in certain situations.

I was thinking about how much iv'e learnt since Reuben came crashing into our lives and wanted to share it to see if other parents can relate or feel the same way. I think this is a really interesting topic because often most things we think about and do are centred around our little one so its nice to sit down and think about ourselves for once. Plus i'm sure everyone has learn something different to their peers.

Below are the things I've personally learnt

1. I'm strong - I always knew I was physically quite strong but I never knew just how mentally strong I was until I became a mum. We have faced some testing times with Reuben, he's never been what I would describe as an "easy baby" and my gosh my patience, resilience and ability to not go mad have well and truly been tested. Of course there have been plenty of tears along the way but we've always made it through everything thrown at us.

2. To trust myself - Its true what they say, mothers instinct is usually correct. I will always have Reuben's best interests at heart. The bond we have is something I never even knew possible and I truly believe (most of the time) I know whats best for him. No two children are the same and the same goes for parents views and beliefs.

3. I'm maternal - I always knew i wanted to be a mum but i would never describe myself as hugely maternal. I often felt a little awkward around other peoples children and didn't want to make a fool of myself. Since having Reuben he has somewhat consumed me. I can hardly remember life without him and can never imagine not being a mum. I feel quite at home in my current job title.

4. To let things go - I've learnt how to prioritise and what's important, I don't let certain things get to me now which would have before. I'm also much better at saying no. I have to prioritise and Reuben will Always come first.

5. Everyone needs support - i don't have a huge amount of physical support as my family live 250 miles away but my mum is always at the other end of the phone for advise or reassurance and my husband is a big help. Support can come in all shapes and sizes and can make a huge difference to you and your journey.

Being a parent isn't all sunshine and roses but it's the most rewarding thing iv'e ever had the pleasure of doing. The bad days are there to help us truly appreciate the good ones.