Baby number 2...when IS the right time?

I don't know if it's just me that thinks this but if you've been with your partner a long time or get married you get asked when are you starting a family, then when you have that family you get asked when's baby number 2 coming along?! Like you couldn't possibly be completely content with your life at that moment in time. So when is the right time to add baby no 2 to the equation?!

This is obvious different for everyone and a very personal choice. There is no right or wrong as every family is different. At 18 months post partum I still feel completely and utterly obsessed with Reuben that I'm not sure there's any room in my heart for another right now. I realise how ridiculous that sounds and I'm sure every mother has similar thoughts at some point but it's just the way I feel right now.

Reuben wasn't exactly what I would call an 'easy baby' and we're at the point now where life is so much easier and actually more fun. I've finally got my body back for myself after 18 months of devotion to my son and I want to enjoy that and work on me! Pregnancy took a huge toll on me and my body. I'm naturally tiny and I housed and birthed a 7lb 8oz baby. I still don't feel 100% recovered. My core strength is nowhere near what it once was, have a slight separation at my belly button and I'm not sure I would cope so well with pregnancy right now.

I feel like I would like to be able to spend some one on one time with baby number 2 as the bond Reuben and I have is incredible. We have discussed starting Reuben at pre school a few hours a week once hes 2 but it's something we need to investigate further.

I would love for my children to be close enough in age to enjoy each others company but also have individual parts to their life. I have a 2 and 4 year age gap with my brothers and iv'e mostly always got on well with both.

I know for a fact I definitely want at least one more child in the future and a lot can change in even just a couple of months but right now I'm so happy with my little family and life as it is that I'm going to enjoy it and live in the moment!

I'd love to know what age gap you have?